I used my Sabbath morning to go on a hike today. And since I was alone on the trail, I was able to walk at my own pace. I didn’t even have a time constraint, so my speed wasn’t effected by that sense of “you have a lot to do today, so get moving”.
If I go hiking with my tall, speedy husband and/or my tall, young, speedy sons, I inevitably fall behind. I just cannot keep up their pace. Here’s a photo from a recent hike with Justin and Elliott.
I used to feel bad about “holding people back” because I am not Speed Racer. When I was a runner, a 9 minute mile was a land speed record for me. I don’t feel bad about it anymore. There’s nothing I can do about it. I’m just grateful to be out hiking and able to do it. (Have I mentioned how much I miss having healthy knees?)
My parents have been visiting this week, which has been great. But I realized the pace of my life is much faster than theirs. They are retired, so they don’t have a lot of work to get accomplished during a day. They don’t move through a day as fast as I do. They also can’t walk as fast as I do. They, wisely, attend to their steps with more care. When you are near 80 you don’t want to fall and break a hip. And so I’ve caught myself having to very intentionally slow down to match their pace (and so I don’t lose them at Target).
Moving at someone else’s pace is a challenge. You have to let go of your agenda and all you thought had to be accomplished in a particular amount of time. You have to pay attention and notice what your companion’s speed is.
It has been good for me to go through my day at someone else’s pace this week.
And I realize that pace applies in more than hikes or trips to Costco. At what pace does the decision process occur at church? (or your place of employment or wherever you spend your time).
“Leadership is about disappointing people at a pace they can tolerate.”Alexander Grashow
How do set your pace? Do people have to keep up with you? Do you move at the pace of the slowest person in the group?