I am interested in theological issues relating to adoption. I am both an adopted child and a birthmother.

In these posts, I am trying to only speak of my experience, not the experience of my children or anyone else connected to the adoption triad.

Click on the link below to see an article, published in Call To Worship, with a healing service to use with a birthmother after she has relinquished her child for adoption.

A Service for Healing After Relinquishing a Child for Adoption

To read a sermon about my experience with adoption, click here.

To understand why Mother’s Day has always been a complicated day for me, click here. 

For a prayer for birth mothers at Mother’s Day, click here.

For a general Mother’s Day prayer, click here.

To read a post about how I have struggled with the adoption/abortion discussion, click here, and its follow up post here.

9 thoughts on “Adoption

  1. Hey, Marci:

    I went to to check out your semons. I saw you had a link to adoptions (this page).

    I ran across this article that seemed pretty neat to me (although you are the one with first hand experience to know how “valid” it is).

    Hope you are doing well. It’s been too long since I’ve seen you (in real life, instead of cyber life).



    • Thanks Mike. I hadn’t seen that article. I think it is pretty accurate. I would add that birth mothers probably don’t get as much respect as the author is calling for because we remain hidden, often in shame filled silence. People think birth mothers fit some sort of sterotype, as she described in that Newsweek article. In reality, birth mothers are just like everyone else you meet on the street, but hiding in plain sight.
      The more people are safe to share their stories, the better things will be.
      It has been too long! Hopefully we’ll make it back to NM before too long!

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  2. I feel like adoption is slowly being de-valued because of in-vitro fertilization. People can order up 6 kids at once, and then act shocked when some of them have health problems. All under the guise of making their own, when in reality, there are already so many in the making who need wonderful homes. My brother and his wife adopted their daughter 23 years ago in an open adoption procedure, and the biological family has been involved as much as they’ve been comfortable. Her birth mother attended her wedding last year, and a speech was given in her honor, for having the fortitude to give her to people who could and would provide love and care her entire life. It takes a lot of love to put a child up for adoption. Kudos to those mothers.


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  4. Marci… I am an adoptee and an adoptive mother (another fun combo!)…you need to check out and even email Deanna Shrodes if you are lead to do so. She is a wonderful person and this site has helped me immensely.

    With all due respect to Diane Sower, it is not love that makes adoptive mothers give up their children to adoption. They do love their children, but they don’t give them up out of love.

    As an adoptee I would love to see as few adoptions happen as possible…as an adoptive mother I would like to see as few adoptions happen as possible.

    I know that she does not probably mean to call it a “procedure”. I know that sometimes adoption does have to happen…but we need to look at our attitudes toward adoption and talk to the adopted ones more about how they feel…


    • Thanks for your comment.
      With all due respect, I would say that if you aren’t a birth mother, you might not speak with such definitive confidence about why women give their children up for adoption. Love for my son was certainly a big piece of it for me.
      Don’t know that site, but will check it out. Thanks!


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